I love my brothers.
They are so amazing. They have
always been such good big brothers.
Today was a busy day at the clinic and I ran to the front desk to get
something and saw the most gentle face in our waiting room. I thought for a moment how at ease I was in
the chaos of a busy clinic day and realized it was my oldest brother. I didn’t know he was in town. He has always been a bit of a free
spirit. Just comes and goes like the
wind. He lives about four hours away and
I don’t get to see him that often. I ran
to hug him. I wanted to catch up but had
much too much left in my day. I finished
clinic and went to my mom’s assisted living where I knew he would be. We laughed and teased my mom. We teased her that with her Alzheimer’s that
she wouldn’t remember how ornery we had been with her that night.
I followed my brother over to my middle brother’s house
where he was staying. We laughed and
reminisced. That’s what the holidays are
about. Just being with family and
remembering. We laughed about things
from our past that we could not have possibly laughed at when they were
happening. Now they are funny and with
retrospect we can look back and laugh.
If only we could do that in the moment now and just think, “in ten
years, I’ll be laughing about this….”
How much more relaxed we could be.
Interesting story. My
brother told me about a story of his vision board. I love vision boards. They are so powerful. It’s amazing when you make one, how fast the
things you put on it will come. So he
was telling me that he had put pictures of his family on it and things he
wanted to come true. Everything on the
board came true within a few months.
EVERYTHING! And what I’m about to
tell you next gave me goose bumps and still does just thinking about it as I’m
writing this. He told me that the
creepy, eerie thing is that he couldn’t find the perfect picture of his son
that he wanted on the board to represent an ideal and loving relationship and
so he just put a blank picture frame with the words “my son”. He meant to find a fitting picture but just
didn’t get around to it. Then he told me
the most amazing thing. He is now
estranged from his son. The vision board
came true and there was a black hole in the frame that now represents their
relationship. He told me that he doesn’t
believe in coincidence. He admitted that
maybe ego or pride or unknown forces had developed but I truly believe that
“thoughts become things” and just leaving that blank space was opening up his
mind and thoughts to the void that now is.
I can’t explain it but this vision board thing is VERY powerful. Everything that I have ever put on my vision
board has come true within a pretty short period of time and the more I focus
my attention to my vision board the quicker the manifestation of my thoughts
materialize.
I know that God wants amazing wonderful things for us. I know that the “secret” to having all that
we desire is to “ask and it shall be given”.
My other brother was telling me that faith is the evidence of things not
seen and that faith can move mountains.
When we create visions and focus clearly we are placing our faith in the
idea that God wants us to be happy and at peace.
I was thinking about where I have been on my journey
lately. I believe in the power of positive
thinking and focus. I have been thinking
a lot lately about what “Happiness” truly is.
Am I happy? I think so most of
the time but then I know that I am never satisfied with anything. Does that make me unhappy? Does that make me driven? Motivated?
A high achiever? Or just unhappy?
My husband asked me what would make me happy. I started listing off “things”.
And then I realized I have had a lot of “things” and that didn’t make me
happy. So where was my happy? I thought about the last time I could
remember being really happy. Joyful and
at peace. My thoughts took me back to
about 5th grade. That’s when
my dad fell off a tower and broke his hip.
He was an electrician and working on a TV tower when he fell. My dad was a genius. He invented the first remote control car
starter. He invented and car without a
carburetor that what get almost 70 miles to a gallon. He invented the first mini satellite dish and
cracked the code to cold fusion. I
always thought that he would invent and sell something that would rescue
us. He dreamed of being rich and buying
us everything we could dream of. And
when he fell off that tower, it was the beginning of his slow demise to death
and the beginning of me being a caretaker, as my mom had to go to work to pay
the bills and I was the only one at home to change urinals and shift his leg in
traction in the hospital bed in our living room. He didn’t have health insurance so after the
surgery, they just sent him home. The
beginning of my medical caretaker career in the 5th grade also meant
the end of my childhood, but more than that it was the end of “hope” for
me. He would never carry out that big
invention or bring to fruition his dreams of “being big”. I realized that my happy was tied to hope. And when my hope died, my happy died.
I read an experiment of a German scientist over 40 years ago
that worked with mice and when he put them in a bucket of water with the lights
out they swam about 15 minutes before giving up and drowning. But when he turned the lights on and put them
in the bucket they would swim on average about 3 days! Hope is an amazing thing. It drives us to keep striving and working and
dreaming.
You see my dad set the standard very high for hope. That was my programming. Do something big and change the world. Most people have ordinary parents. That go to work and just say “get an education
and good job”. Not my dad. He didn’t even finish the eighth grade and he
could build or repair anything. He read
physics book for fun. He bragged when he
built his first computer that took up our whole upstairs living room which by
the way, my brother pointed out tonight was a whopping 6 megabytes… and he
cajoled that he gets emails that are 6 megabytes on his phone now! LOL… I always said if an alien ship landed in our
backyard and was in need of repair they would be in the right yard, because my
dad was probably perfectly able to do the job.
So, not my dad. He said “use your
thoughts, Tammy. Your thoughts can
change the world…” And though I believed
him and had faith, the day he fell from the tower I lost hope and I lost a part
of me.
I realize now that my ability to change the world is through
my thoughts. That changing my own
thoughts will change the world, because the world is only the way I see
it. My dad gave me the greatest
gift. Not genius or a sprawling estate,
but the truth that I am my world. And my
thoughts can change my world.
So tonight I think of him and his legacy of thought. He was an amazing thinker and his spirit
lives through me. The big thing that I
am meant to do is yet to be seen. In fact
it’s interesting. I heard a comedian at
church, MichaelJR say that, “you can’t possibly know the grand things that God
has planned for your life and in fact if you think you know it or can see it
now, that’s most likely not it because he has such big things for our life that
we can’t possibly see it now.” That’s
faith. Believing that I have
purpose. I know that loving my patients
and helping them on their journey is big, but I can see that, so I know there
is something else even bigger coming even if I can’t see it. We are all destined for bigness. We just have to have a little faith. Mustard seed faith.
So my happiness is not elusive as I thought it was and it is
ok to believe that is anchored in my hope.
The illusion was that hope was gone.
It is just dormant when we don’t embrace it or believe it. I see the light in my patient’s eyes when I
help them see the hope they are searching for.
Why was it right there in front of me and I didn’t see it?
I hope that you are moved to your bigness and that you
always remember that no matter what comes your way, God is Bigger! And his plans for us are very big. Even my dad, that seemed to die bankrupt from
his medical bills never gave up hope and in fact that hope is very much alive
in me.
Embrace your hope. Be
still and know that God is in control and let him bring the big things he has
for you and remember that sometimes we have to get out of our own way before he
can bring them to us. We focus on
negative and the lack or what we can’t see or don’t have and this just keeps
the faith meter on empty.
Go buy a bulletin board tomorrow and get those positive visions
going and don’t leave any blanks or black holes. Be clear and let me know when your thoughts
start becoming things so I can say, “pretty cool, huh?”